Have you ever wanted to participate in a conversation but been afraid that what you were about to say wasn't good enough? Have you ever set a goal but been afraid to take the first step?

Most people want to achieve their goals and express themselves, but they underestimate the value of self-confidence.

How I developed my self-confidence

FemCodeAfrica invited me to participate in a program called Every Girl Project. So the focus of this program was on personal development and digital technology skills. I was so glad that one of the courses that were being considered was self-confidence and Self-esteem. Why? because I struggled with and found it difficult to deal with self-confidence It made me doubt myself and my abilities. But I can't say the same thing right now. And it's because I recognized the importance of developing myself and increasing my self-confidence, for which I'm grateful to the Every Girl Project.

You could ask why do you need to build or develop this quality "Self Confidence"?

I'll tell you why :) But first, let's look at what self-confidence and self-esteem is ;

Self-confidence

Simply put, self-confidence is the act of believing in oneself, one's abilities, qualities, and judgment. It implies that you accept and trust yourself and that you have a sense of control over your life. You are aware of your own strengths and weaknesses and have a positive self-image. You have the ability to set realistic expectations and goals, communicate assertively, and handle criticism. It is difficult to persuade someone to believe in you if you are unsure. Having self-confidence can help you in many ways at home, at work, and in your relationships.

Self-esteem

Self-esteem refers to how much you value yourself regardless of the circumstances.

But then lack of self-confidence could cause you something. Could you pause and think what that is? okay then let's get right into it.

• Anxiety

• Depression

• Loneliness

• Stress

• Affect your interactions with friends

• Not taking risk

• Self-doubt

Yes, going through all these isn't good and healthy. Fortunately, there are several things you can do to increase your self-confidence. Whether you lack confidence in one specific area or struggle to feel confident about anything, these confidence boosters can help.

1. Speak Slowly

People who feel they aren't worthy of being listened to tend to Speak quickly. so ensure that you aren't rushing.

2. Change your mindset

3. Dress Nicely

This may come as a cliche. But when you dress nicely, you will most likely feel more confident.

4. Empowering yourself with knowledge

Empowering yourself, in general, is one of the best strategies in building your self-confidence.

5. Be a front seater

Ever notice in meetings how the back sit gets filled up first? it's due to a lack of self-confidence.

6. Practice speaking up at every meeting

A lot of people with low self-confidence don't do this but then, practice speaking When you are in a meeting. speak, comment, make suggestions, ask questions.

7. Stop Blaming Yourself

8. Set Goals

Set goals that are both realistic and attainable. Expect nothing less than perfection; it is impossible to be perfect in all aspects of life.

9. Surround yourself with positive people

People you spend time with may have a greater influence on your thoughts and attitudes toward yourself than you realize. So pay attention to how others make you feel. Surround yourself with people who genuinely care about you and want the best for you.

Improving your self-esteem and self-confidence can have a variety of beneficial effects on your life. It can strengthen your relationships with others, make you more resilient to stress and make you feel better about yourself and your abilities. so, It may take some time and effort to change your perspective on yourself, but you can learn to see and appreciate yourself for who you are over time.